Vorlon Whispers

I appreciate your honesty with how today felt and the lonliness that you felt with Ted not being in the seat he always sat in. You certainly do honor the space on this website that Ted began in sharing what he was going through and how he was feeling. This is a really healing space and I'm glad you let all of us who read along and send their prayers of support to be able to wrap you up in our caring and loving embrace.

Snuggle up with Danny Boy tonight and feel how we all blanket you with our love and support.

I am so glad that you have someone with you again this week. I know last night must have been very hard after visiting the cemetery. Both because it was Ted's Birthday on Friday and because you were alone for the first time in the house. The weekend are always the longest we are here when you need to get away or want a change of scenery. Focus on what needs to get done paper wise and push to do something every day. Just one day at a time and one foot in front of the other routine will help you to get through each day and night. Danny will be there to help you Ted knew that. I am sure that's why he decided after all these years to get a pet. Keep the faith! As always we send prayers and love. Cheryl and Owen

Karol - I can only imagine what you are going through. We are all glad that you feel you can open your heart on this site. Know that you are loved.

I can relate to you and the camera. I actually won a digital camera at a HR conference a few years ago. I never used it. I was intimidated. Eventually my grandson asked if I was ever going to learn to use it - I told him I suppose not and then asked him if he wanted it. I now have a new laptop with the photo program thingy of it. Hey, should I ask for it bac? NA!

As someone else said - the weekends will be the hardest for you. Keep posting and let your friends help in whatever way you need them.

Phyllis E

Phyllis

Karol,

Friday had to have been so hard! I am glad you've got such good friends that are able to stay with you now. Keep Danny Boy close. He'll help you through this, and he needs you now as much as you need him.

I'm here if you need me.

Nora

Dear Karol,

My heart just ached for you as I read your entry. It's those "first" that are so very difficult. In other words, it was the first choir performance without Ted being where he normally sits. The first trip to the cemetery. The first night alone. It's just terribly terribly hard to get through Karol. Our hearts ache for you. That seems obvious from the number of us that responded when we knew you were having an especially tough day. How we wish we could make it better. Time becomes your friend, and your constant faith in knowing that you are wrapped securly in the arms of God, who never fails us. And, I know the words sound so simple. You want to feel better, but, it will take time my dear. On the bright side, you did make it through some of those "firsts". And, even that is a small step forward. I think your friend gave you very good advice when she mentioned putting one foot in front of another. It's absolutely the only way through your nearly unbearable grief. The pain and loss will never fully leave you Karol because you loved each other so very much. But, one day, you will realize that an hour passed without such piercing pain, and then somewhere down the road, it will become an hour and a half. They are baby steps, but, remember that babies do eventually learn to walk, but only after several bumps and bruises along the way. There is no way around it, we must go through it. And, you will too my dear. How I wish there was a way to ease your pain and sorrow. I can only remind you that your Lord Jesus is holding you closely. Recall the beautiful hymn entitled "Leaning on the Everlasting Arms". He won't leave you alone Karol. It's His promise to you.

I apologize for writing so much, but, your entry just touched me so deeply and I just longed to be able to help you, and this is the only way that I felt I could share just a little love and support for you. Keep snuggling with Danny Boy. Ted knew he would be a comfort to you Karol. Loving and caring for you today and tomorrow and tomorrow. Ruth

Karol,

You've gone through a very difficult period and have handled it much better than post people would have handled it. Your bad days will be there for some time. They will get fewer, but right now it's difficult without Ted.

I can tell you from experience that I found the blog to be very helpful for me after Dad died in October.

I just opened up and poured everything out. This past weekend was especially difficult for you with good reason - Ted's birthday, seeing people shortly after Ted's passing, being alone in the house, etc. Everything started to compound on your emotions.

I found that trying to hold back my emotions was the worst thing. Take the time for a good cry now and then. Just grab hold of Danny Boy and let loose. It's all part of the grieving process.

I took a photo of my father and edited out the background. It was really a good photo of him. I made copies for everyone and put it on the bible study blog.

I have an 8x10 at my desk and gave copies to my mother, Phyllis, Aunt Mary, Uncle Richard, and some of my father's friends.

I talk to the photo and feel better. Might sound stupid, but I do. My mother, Aunt Mary, and Phyllis do the same thing and say it helps them.

Dear Karol, The postings on your blog show how much every person Loves you and how much Teds messages touched their lives.. They were always so internally personal. He was able to reach the very depts of all our hearts through his blog.

Mom and I are having some very difficult days dealing with the loss of our son also,
You know it seems when we are feeling our lowest
he appears to us to tell us everything is all right. It may seem strange that during those times we can feel his presence near us.. We have his photos through out the house. We feel he is always with us and will never leave us.. He is in The hands of our Lord. May Gods Blessings be upon all who came into our lives through our Son Ted's
blog. With Love, Mom & Dad

Hi Karol,It seems to have been a tough week-end, and it's ok to have a good cry. Of course you miss Ted, and it's hard to look around and not see him. But, he is there with you... along with Gods love, watching over you and protecting you. Hold on to little Danny,cuddle with him, and let the tears flow.. and talk to Ted. You are such a strong person, and it's ok to let the emotions go. If you hold it in, it will only make you feel worse.I am so glad that you have many friends around you to help you with all that you have to do, and to help you... just by being there for you. Take care of yourself Karol, and please tell Ted's parents I am thinking about them, and wish them peace. Prayers are with all of you... Gloria

THE ONLY THINK YOU HAVE TO DO IS FIRST conect the camera to de pc then not first you have to download de infomation in the CD IT HAVE A PLACE TO PICK THE PHOTOS THEN YOU CONECT THE CAMERA TO THE PC AND THE PHOTOS WILL BE IN THE PLECE BE HAPPY

PHOTOGRAPHIE IS ONLY PASION YOU FINISH BEEN A CAMERA,AND IT CAN BE A PROBLEM.

Karol,

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and doubly sorry to be so late in noticing. I'd found Ted's blog via Philly Future and I had been following his battle with great interest. Full disclosure: My dad died of lung cancer (spread to liver and lymph nodes) in January 2005. I was really hoping Ted would beat this thing.

Anyway, I'll say a prayer for you tonight. Again, I'm sorry to hear this.